I was out taking some pictures of the Waterfront on Kaiya Islands and whilst taking my pictures I was also profile surfing ….. as I am want to do, when I came across a profile of a chap who said he was an introvert, yet there he was dancing in the buff at Turtle Coast.
Being ever inquisitive I IM’d him about it and asked if introversion and exhibitionism were not conflicting concepts. He then replied by asking if I knew what introversion is and I had to admit that I didn’t know what exactly it encompasses only my own preconceived ideas.
So for those of you, who like me thought being and introvert meant being shy and retiring and basically a wall flower apparently that is not correct -
Definition: Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. In fact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert! Shyness has an element of apprehension, nervousness and anxiety, and while an introvert may also be shy, introversion itself is not shyness. Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people.
Introverts are more concerned with the inner world of the mind. They enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings. They often avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. This is true even if they have good social skills. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, they need time alone to "recharge."
“Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pyjamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family. They listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror of small talk, but enjoy deep discussions.” Susan Cain
This in turn got me thinking about exhibitionism and nudism, as I had basically accused him of being an exhibitionist, when actually that is not the case. An exhibitionist gets nude for the purpose of exposing their naked body to other people and getting some sort of response or attention from it. Exhibitionism is a mental condition characterized by the compulsion to display one’s genitals in public. It falls under a category of psychiatric sexual disorders known as “paraphilias.” (Psychology Today) Paraphilias are a group of mental disorders marked by obsession with unusual sexual practices. Nudists get naked because they feel more comfortable without clothes. Nudists “just want to be nude. If they like to be with others, it’s because humans are social creatures.” (www.webnaturists.com) Nudism has nothing to do with sexual gratification but rather from the simple belief that nude is better.
I still wonder though if you can really be an introvert and also a nudist. Apparently in Second Life you can!
There are many nude beaches in Second Life which makes one ponder whether SL nudism is not really just a form of voyeurism, I mean what are the chances that the human behind the avatar is sitting at their computer in the nude?