How many times have you visited an adult venue and all you see is noobs waddling about asking for sex or escorts cat calling to turn tricks with any random Tom, Dick or Harry looking for cheap thrills? The boredom is apparent and the pickings are slim when it comes to finding the perfect playmate that can wow you with their emoting skills.
The days of fruitless wandering are over and it is time for the adults to come out and play. There are many grown up playgrounds andnude beaches across the grid, but do they practice quality over quantity? !Pleasure Seekers is the place to be for No BS, just fun and mingling with like minded lovers. One man seems to understand what it takes to weed out the mundane and provide a place where true Poly is practiced.
Owned and operated by Ex Dezno and his management team of beauties, !Pleasure Seekers is a Forest and Beach Venue; a must see on your Poly Play Itinerary.
The SL Enquirer sat down with Ex to learn more about him and what inspired him to design a stunning place.
Interview with Ex Dezno (extreme.dezno)
Hi Ex, I have to say !Pleasure Seekers is a stunning new Poly venue on the grid. Your attention to detail tells me that this isn’t just another raunchy venue slapped together for the sake of somewhere to bump and grind. It has class and what makes it unique is your initiative to help avatars prime themselves for a great visually stimulating experience. Can you tell our readers what inspired you to create !Pleasure Seekers and what they can expect?
Ex: What inspired me? You already said it, it's hard to go to any sim that is focused more about the quality of the avatars, instead of worrying about numbers. We don't care about the numbers, we want people to see others on a sim that turn them on, and for me, the sight of 20 system avatars doesn't work for me. Plus, I'm banned from all the other beaches on the grid, so why not open my own? *laughs*
One of the most important parts in running a successful atmosphere is a team of people willing to dedicate their time to make it great. Tell me a little about your team and what they do.
Ex: Jade has helped decorate the sim, everything from helping shop for furniture, to placing trees and grass in the right spots. She's also a DJ, she does photography and helps manage the day to day. She also started a Facebook and Flickr page for the sim. Saucy is also a talented photographer. She has also helped decorate. They have both been helpful in getting the sim to the place it is now, with their ideas and input.
The Poly lifestyle can be interpreted in many different ways, how do you interpret it?
Ex: I interpret it as an unselfish way to show more than one person that you care about, that you do not have to be restricted to just loving one person; emotionally or sexually. It's a personal freedom, but there has to be 100% trust, and despite what most think, it's not just about going out and "hooking up" with randoms. It's a relationship with all people involved. To me, it's not cheating. It's being open about your feelings and there can be no secrets at all between all parties.
First impressions are paramount in Second Life as they are in the real world but in a virtual world where we can mold our appearance, our look precede us until we become verbal in a crowd. That is when personalities can make or break that first impression and create an interest or cause others to be turned off. What are your thoughts on that?
Ex: Being in SL as long as I have, I have seen a lot of people in various entertainment and social situations, it's easy to weed out the ones who pretend to be something they are not just by one conversation, whether it be in voice or text. I'm a very good judge of character. Being a business owner in real life, it's become easy for me to see through people, and that has helped in here. As far as the visual and appearance, I think the basis of this sim answers that. As Jade would say, "It's my SL, I like for things to be pretty around me", and I figure I'm not alone in that.
I noticed in the welcome note card I received at the landing point offers avatars various options for creating a primed and ready avatar. This is a great service you provide to those that can use a little help in the upgrading department. What tips can you offer people who want to impress the ladies or men that frequent! Pleasure Seekers?
Ex: In SL, there are many, many talented bloggers that go out of their way to weed out the quality creators and designers across the grid. I would advise those new to the mesh body/head/clothing wave, join clothing groups, mesh body groups, ask questions, check out the sales, click links, check out the fairs and events that are happening. Pay attention to what others are saying. But most importantly, do not be afraid to demo..Everything. You may stumble across something you like, that you were unsure about just by discussion.
What type of activities and events can Poly guests experience at !Pleasure Seekers?
Ex: We have the table version of Truth or Dare, we have a "nuts & bolts" kind of game with keys where singles can hook up and spend time together. We have fun things like body shots at the bar, parties with DJs, games, lots of conversation and discussing whatever anyone wants to discuss. We have lots of beautiful places around the sim to spend some quiet time, or if you are so inclined, we have lots of group furniture available for use.
Do you have a group guests can join to stay in the know about events and activities?
Ex: Yes we do, there is a group joiner at the landing, that anyone can join. There is a one time fee to join the group, as the sim will be changing over to group access only in the coming weeks.
That is good to know. Do guests have to be poly to be part of the group to experience certain activities or games?
Ex: No, they can be curious about the lifestyle, have questions, be open to learning more, etc. We have couples that have joined the group, and visit the sim, so there is always a discussion to new visitors about the possibility of seeing people who do enjoy the lifestyle on the sim, and the hope that they aren't easily offended by that.
Do you have rules or expectation of guests who visit !Pleasure Seekers such as etiquette, dress code, language or behavior in open chat?
Ex: I would say more about etiquette, always be respectful to everyone. Dress code, I think would fall under the expectation of caring what your appearance is, since SL is a very visual platform. We have no problem with language, unless it's rude or disrespectful, but as far as the language barrier, most of the visitors are English speaking, but as long as there is an understanding via it being a second language, or a translator, we have no problems with that. Behavior at Pleasure Seekers will always be watched, because there are so many different personalities, and interpretations of the poly lifestyle, that any type of rudeness, disrespect, vulgar behavior toward another avatar will not tolerated.
Griefers, Child Avies and Age play has been a problem in SL for a long time. How do you keep these types of avies out?
Ex: Scrutinizing every avatar that comes to the sim, from checking out their appearance, their profile, their groups, to see if there is a possibility of age play or someone playing a child avie. I know every single member of the group, and for new members/visitors, I talk to them, get to know a little about them, what makes them tick, before they are even invited to join the group.
It sounds like you have a great plan in place for !Pleasure Seekers. It ‘s been a pleasure to meet you and learn more about this new venue. I like your straight forward, no BS attitude. !Pleasure Seekers truly has a nice atmosphere and the little time I’ve spent just relaxing by the pool has been a pleasure that I’ve been seeking. Is there anything else you wish to share with our readers?
Ex: I think everything has been shared, except just saying, stop in, have a look around, see what you think about it, and join us. Invite your friends and let's just have a great time and party.
Preferred Contact: Extreme Dezno