I undertook to do another of the SL Enquirer’s Avie polls and the question that was to be answered was as follows: Is it possible to find true love in Second Life and make it in Real Life?
This question struck a chord with me and I decided it has more legs to it than just a straight forward poll, and I obtained permission from Lanai Jarrico, the owner and publisher of the SL Enquirer to turn it into a series of SL love stories
Second Life is not a dating site, but by its very nature it is a social place and for many people it is their third place or third space, which is the social surroundings separate from the two usual social environments of home ("first place") and the workplace ("second place"). The following hallmarks indicate a true "third place" -
· Free or inexpensive
· Highly accessible
· Involve regulars – those who habitually congregate there
· Welcoming and comfortable
· Both new friends and old should be found there.
Sounds like Second Life to me, what do you think? Naturally when socilaising occurs, it goes without saying that romance is a likely consequence in many cases.
In January 2014 Bre was unceremoniously dumped by her then partner of 2 ½ years. They had taken the decision to take the relationship into real life. Having set all the plans in motion and two weeks before he was due to move to her, he pulled the rug from beneath her and coldly informed her that he no longer wanted to be with her. Not sounding like much of a love story to you? Read on …
His profile rang true to her own situation. He too had gone through a similar situation with his erstwhile girlfriend and coincidentally on the same day that it had happened to her. Bre proceeded to IM him, just to say hi and to let him know that she knew what he was feeling and going through. She did not expect him to reply, but he did. They did the cautious dance initially, and eventually she managed to twist his arm into dancing with her. Laughing she said that it had been like pulling teeth. They talked some more. During the conversation she happened to ask him if he knew of any land that was available. She had decided that having a home and decorating it would keep her mind off her recently broken off relationship.
As time passed, they became closer and David asked Bre to marry him in March of that year. In June they took the decision to take the relationship into real life. To quote Bre “I was soooo intense….” She told me that they have so much in common, the laugh and cry and can just be silly with one another. Obviously as with all relationships, it has its moments of frustration. But they say what is needed to be said and then just get on with it.
Thank you for sharing your story with us Bre and David, we wish you much happiness on your journey together.