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Showing posts with label SL Polyamory. Show all posts
Showing posts with label SL Polyamory. Show all posts

Thursday, July 14, 2016

Polyamory; Free Love in a New Age

Polyamory is a lifestyle which consists of trust and personal freedom. Without those traits, this lifestyle would seize to exist.
In Second Life true Poly couples are hard to find. They do not scout the grid for random sexual encounters and one night stands, or approach just anyone to enter their beds.  In fact, sex isn’t really the main agenda. Seeking like-minded individuals is the goal but it can be a challenge.

 Most people are into a traditional or even non traditional monogamous relationship, yet cheating and jealousy seem to create the most issues for them. Have you ever wondered why people cheat on their partners, even if they love them? In fact, 50% of marriages fail today. It isn’t always because of financial reasons, inability to fight fair, control, abuse, or other things that cause damage to a union.  Quite frankly, it is because people changed.  Boredom and or new found independence makes people seek something new to stimulate them.  That goes for anything from new hobbies, jobs, movies, books, cars, houses, change of environment, personal style, a new haircut- just about anything.
Keeping things fresh and exciting in a relationship is important but even then, some people just want or need new experiences.  This has only intensified through the years thanks to internet and social media. We all have the ability to find those special interests we don’t find in our local community or in our own home.
Why do you think   more people are choosing a Poly Lifestyle?
The answer is simple. Humans were not born with a limit on whom they fall in love with or who they become attracted to when they begin to experience attraction.  Manmade rules are what govern how we should commit to others and even act.  Just like government and religion was created to contain some form of civilization and order. There has to be a way to contain the madness right?

With scandals in the church and government getting out of control, it lessens the respect people have for order. Social norms, a belief system, upbringing and other environmental contributors are factors which form how we perceive things should be in our lives.
 But is that how it should be in this day and age? It seems those who chose their own path are seen as different or rebels. Why can’t people just see it as individualism?
 We are all different.  How can we all fit the same mold of what society THINKS is “normal”?  We all have our own needs, wants and desires. How can they all be fulfilled by one person or even put into one set of rules for all to abide by?

Many go through life thinking they are happy with the person they chose to be with. Others settle even further. Some are unhappy but don’t know how to express what they really want or are afraid of what others will think of them if they decide on a certain lifestyle or even express their inner desires.
 What truly makes a person happy? Or should the word be content?  Should a person settle and just go through life secretly thinking about what they really want?
How is that living?
Or worse yet, looking back at life wishing they would have made different decisions when it is too late. Nobody wants to live their golden years with regrets and missed opportunities for a better quality of life.

Those who practice poly believe that everyone has the right to be free to find their own happiness. They support each other, love unconditionally without judgment and for the most part feel more fulfilled in their own lives.
 It doesn’t mean polyamorists love any less. It is quite the opposite. They love more and worry less.  All the issues that can cause a relationship to fall apart such as cheating and jealousy are the least of their worries.  However, some form of communication and agreements need to be put in place to ensure all parties involved understand what they are getting into.

Swingers and Polyamorists should not be confused as the same things. Swingers are couples who agree to swap with other couples, have rules yet they remain loyal to each other. Polyamorists on the other hand can have multiple partners/lovers without restrictions or loyalty to just one.

Imagine living life with the people you choose to love and who love you, without being judged for your preferences. You could love freely and explore your sexuality. That is Poly.
These types of relationships can only become complicated when people are not honest with themselves or others, irresponsible or disrespectful.  For example, participants having unrealistic expectations of partners by creating rules or causing problems, because they want to suddenly become monogamous.  

 In order for this lifestyle to work, everyone involved needs to lay the cards on the table and agree to the freedoms of Polyamorists. If you are unsure, then do not get involved in the lifestyle.

 Safety should be first in the discussion.   By taking the initiative to protect yourself by practicing safe sex is very important to avoid sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies.  Also, if you are not comfortable with a partner it is best to not engage in situations with them. Do not do things just to make other people happy. Do what makes YOU happy first.
The whole point is being true to yourself and to others about what you want in a Polyamorists lifestyle and being respectful not to impose on others.

People who are quick to judge polyamorists for the lifestyle they choose are usually the biggest hypocrites. No one is perfect and just because you choose a lifestyle that does not fit the norms of someone else, doesn’t make what you do wrong.

It is all about personal preference. The world would be a better place is everyone looked within themselves, rather than looking for faults or reason to judge someone else. The phrase “Mind your own business of it does not directly affect you” comes to mind.
Take a good look around you. Observe the couples you know. Evaluate your own situation and make a decision that best suits what you want out of your life and go for what will enhance your quality of living. Surrounding yourself with people who support and love you for you is what matters the most.

Don’t settle. You only live once. Start by nurturing your personal freedom and if monogamy suits you best- stick with what works for you and your partner.

-J. Fiertze

Tuesday, May 17, 2016

A look inside SL's Polyamory Community - What is Polyamory and why has it become popular in SL? - Camury Reporting

Polyamory is the practice of a loving relationship among more than two people with the knowledge and consent of those involved in it. For practitioners, it’s a philosophy of life that is about loving several people at the same time and not in a possessive way.  At the same time being honest, responsible and ethical are of paramount importance.

The Polyamory defends the possibility of being involved in intimate relationships with several partners simultaneously. It's not just sex by the way, sex is even not needed in this kind of practice.  People in to polyamory want to establish deep emotional bonds with several partners at the same time, but with an emphasis on respect and trust among practitioners.

Agreements between poly-couples, as well as the poly-format relations are diverse, according to the needs of each. Being with two, three or a thousand people in emotional relationships, depends on the will, the desire and agreement between those involved. As in monogamous relationships, each poly relationship has a set of rules, established by consensus among the participants.

Regardless of how many rules are put in place problems do sometimes arise, which can be difficult to solve when there are more than two parties that have to reach an agreement.  It takes hard work to keep a number of healthy relationships going at once.

Thus, those involved in poly-amorous relationships put a lot of emphasis on communication as a way to build intimacy, explore the boundaries, negotiate agreements and share feelings. To deal with the problem of jealousy, poly couples talk about what might be causing the feeling, and work to reassure their partners more directly.

While many people agree with the ideals of Polyamory, they state that in practice they don’t work, either because of jealousy or because of social pressures. The acceptance of open relationships is based on an "idealized point of view" that is difficult to manage in real life and even in Second Life.

Just like in real life, in Second Life polyamory advocates the possibility of being involved in personal relationships with various partners, which makes this very popular practice in the game.

Many supporters of polyamory in Second Life consider the lack of social pressure in the game, and the facilities to establish several online personal relationships, without the responsibilities of real life, great attractions. But in general, practitioners of polyamory, in Second Life, are monogamous people in their real lives.

People like to think of themselves as sexually adventurous and liberal, especially in Second Life, but the fact is most human beings are territorial and do not like to share, especially someone they are in love with.

Furthermore, in many societies poly-amorous relationships may be against the norms of behavior accepted by society, even when they are regulated by local law. Many poly people are in the closet for fear of discrimination and social alienation. For this reason, practitioners help each other with the support of a virtual network.

You can visit communities which allow this lifestyle in the second life, and know a little more about it.