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Friday, February 15, 2019

Avi Makeover Resources – A Fun Adventure - Seersha Heart Reporting...

“Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly goes clean to the bone.”
― Dorothy Parker

Creating your appearance in SL can be a daunting task.  You can use the default LL avis, “classics” [16 possible avis], “fantasy” [18 possible avis] or one of the “new” [8 possible avis].  The “New” line of default avis features four different kinds of theme, a male and a female for each theme.  There is the 70s theme with a man that looks like a 70’s porn star and an African American woman with an afro.  There is a grunge duo, the man carrying a guitar and the woman without accessories. The grey age woman in a gown and a man in a tuxedo holding a rose.  The most popular is the duo I call the “dog” duo as each has a pet dog. The woman is smartly dressed in a pencil skirt and jacket thrown on her shoulders, her pooch in a purse.  Unfortunately, her hair and hat are one piece. The man sports a man bun and carries a pet bulldog. The woman also carries a tablet, the man a well-worn briefcase. If you look at the default system avis, you see how the desires of the SL residents has changed over the years.  Making that “look” that is your own signature appearance in SL, is for many both art and religion.
In a world where you can look as you wish, crafting an appearance is a task many take very seriously.  The perfect body, the perfect hair, all of it is within your grasp. The only limits are money and time.  There is a plethora of SL businesses for aiding those who want to work with their appearance. There are services where you pay a fee and they walk you through each step of the process.  There are what I would call makeover “assists” groups where one or more avi attribute can be updating using the service. And there are also people in SL who will help you quite well if you only ask them.  Using a service is helpful as you control the pace and the areas you work with on your avi.

Would you like to update your avi or perhaps you want to go back to the drawing board and create a completely new look?  Do you have any ideas of what you hope to achieve with your avi? The second piece of advice I will share is it is a good idea to take some time to look at photos of avis on Pinterest, Flickr or the general internet.  With time and a few photos, you will have a good experience with a makeover consultant.  For this story I used a male and a female avi for partial updates. I created a new avi, Honey19966 aka “Abeille”, for a complete makeover from default to fitted Mesh, possibly Bento.  Her pictures are featured with this article. My goal for Abeille, make her into all over Bento/Mesh, light/fair skin and curvy figure.  The more you know about what you hope to achieve, the easier it is for the makeover staff to assist you.
Some of the areas you may consider are the obvious one such as making a classic avi into a mesh avi.  Many SL residents do not know the difference between fitted Mesh and Bento. Bento was the big 2017 innovation for avis.  Bento brings bones to the avis and many animations that weren’t possible before. Bento allows hands to be animated as well as new facial expressions beyond the built-in expressions.  Fortunately, there are many demos available to see which form what you are wanting to wear. The makeover agency consultants are experts on the bits and the pieces of creating your avi. The makeover agencies also consult on style and clothing; one agency also consults on landscaping and furnishings.  If you are happy with your avi’s “look” you may want to consult with one of these agencies for information on where to buy the items, you want to achieve the look you want your avi to become for you. I spent three weeks visiting the makeover business locations, spending time with consultants and updating avis.
I began with locations that offer only partial avi make over items such as hair, skin or other separate items.  Edward Vintner, E & S Avatar Makeovers,  has a workshop platform appealing to the self starter make over avi.  His group isn’t there to assist, though he has some thoughtful comments, shapes and skins available.  A very popular stop is Kira Rinkitink ‘s The Makeover Room.  This is a group that offers monthly skins and avi accessories.  For the person happy with their avi look who wants to stay on the cutting edge of fashion, The Makeover Room is a good choice.  Visiting their building I was charmed to see lovely displays and reasonable pricing. It gives the member monthly items to review in an ever changing avi appearance arena.  Though the Makeover Room doesn’t officially offer make over services, many in the group itself are knowledgeable and very helpful.
The all over makeover businesses I visited were Niki Cole Consulting, The Makeover Agency, Cam on Me and Munch-Skins-Appliers & Makeover for Maitreya.    Munch is exclusively Maitreya and comprehensive.  Pricing is similar, the agencies offer a base makeover package, an enhanced package and do other items on an ‘as requested’ basis.  Cam on Me’s Piper has a lot of experience with Bento heads. I realize we all are very picky with our heads as central to our “look” in SL.  If you do not have a mesh head because you do not want to alter your face, I learned two valuable pieces of information. First, fitted Mesh can create a look closer to the classic looks than Bento as Bento is more detailed.  The second is, you can’t go mesh and keep the same exact face. You can get a very similar look and the Mesh face will be more detailed. Niki, of Niki Cole Consulting, is a fashionista with extensive experience in SL as a blogger, stylist and fashion editor.  The Makeover Agency’s Sarabeths has been profiled by some of the most popular SL blogs; Wagner James’ New World Notes and Strawberry Singh’s ‘Virtual World Explorer”. Are there other makeover agencies? Yes, there are both agencies and individuals offering the service.  I am highlighting these agencies as they have a reference. I advise checking into the agency you want to work with for others who have experienced their services.
There is no shortage of opinions on how best to do a makeover whether partial or all over.  Munch-Skins-Appliers & Makeover’s Donna Rickena’s notecard includes very specific HUDs she recommends which also happen to be the most popular ones in world.  Her makeover business extends to outfits as well as a social aspect. She had a beach club [adult] where friends and clients can meet to show off those great looking avis.

For the avi I created, Abeille, I worked with The Makeover Agency’s ever patient Loly for her body.  We spent time on what kind of body I wanted and the options I hoped to have with the new mesh. Fitted Mesh and Bento bodies vary greatly in price these days.  You may purchase a complete mesh body including head for under 3000L or you can pay over 5000L plus for the body and an additional 5000L plus for the head. Some creators offer free mesh heads or other important accessories.  If you want to truly be satisfied with your end result, regardless of who assists you, have a good idea of what you are willing to spend. This budget can then be carved up for the various areas of spending. This is where I found makeover agency staff most helpful.  The know the prices and can easily give you a very close estimate on the look you hope to achieve for your avi. Without exception, the fitted mesh or bento body is the high-ticket item. Before I began working with Loly, I changed up my avi’s clothing to the Boho look I wanted and purchased some of my favorite creator’s hair.  I confess to a real weakness for hair with subtle animations such as a breeze or water droplets. That accomplished I met Loly to body shop. We spent time collecting demos and discussing features of each of the bodies. She was very knowledgeable in how creators set their prices. For example, a maitreya body is both popular and provides many options for clothing and appliers.  Some of the less expensive bodies are more difficult to clothe or to use with appliers. In working with a consultant, I saved money I might have spent buying items that didn’t meet my goals.

Many of you probably recall when Mesh was introduced and the pre-Mesh world.  It is not a place I can ever go back to know that I have seen and created mesh avis.  The amount products available now is staggering. Fortunately, Loly had some ideas from the information I gave her on which bodies would most likely achieve the look I was interested in for Abeille.  This process is much more time consuming that I realized before beginning the journey. The time is needed because the consultant can’t read your mind. Also, I revised my appearance goals as I moved along in the process.
How do you pick the agency for your needs?  Gather a list of agencies from this article or from SL search as we all know things in SL change all the time.  Visit their location and collect NCs. I highly recommend working with the agency you have the best feel or chemistry with when you initially chat.  This process involves time you will spend with this person and can be fun or awkward. I have experienced both in my research. Make sure you can meet with your consultant [compare time zones] and that you speak the same language.  One thing I found that all the consultants shared was a great deal of patience. The individuals providing this service enjoy what they are doing for you. Sit back, be honest about your money and your desires for your look and enjoy the ride.

E & S Avatar Makeovers
We specialize in avatar makeovers to help you create a realistic and appealing look to enhance your SL experience. Contact Skye Gravois or Edward Vintner. Enjoy!”

The Makeover Room
Entice, The Makeover Room, Shady Ladies ,Albino Peacock,The Guest List, Arte, DexterGG, Salty, Appletini,SLF&O, Firelight, Verve, Corrupted Gacha”

Niki Cole Consulting
“Need a hot body? A gorgeous face? Help with mesh and style? You're at the right place!
Makeover Mesh Body Head Fashion Beauty Male Female Catwa Lelutka Maitreya Gianni Signature Cosmectic Belleza Genus Style Slink Shopping Relooking”

The Makeover Agency
 is specialized in makeover, image consulting and interior designing. Follow this group to have weekly notices about all the hit trends {HOME} and {STYLE}”

Cam On Me
Makeover Services, Bento shapes for Catwa, Lelutka, Genus, Laq, Vista, Maitreya, Hourglass. Asian shapes. Elf shapes. Be different, be pretty and classy.”


Thursday, February 14, 2019

Valentine's Day Ideas 2019 - Seersha Heart

Valentine’s day is one of the most social days of the year.  Today I spent some time around the grid checking out the festivities.  I visited a few places to let you know what is planned around the grid.

Dunk-A-Linden & Hug-A-Linden Event
LL is offering an opportunity to party with the Lindens at the Isle of View on February 14 beginning at 10 am slt.  The landing spot in the “Love Pavillion”, a large round building surrounding by hugging booths and a dance floor. Pink permeates every view from outside.  There is a gift giving kiosk that sends your special someone one of the valentine gifts pictured such as a teddy bear, roses, candy and more. Outside of the pavilion, there are walkways with heart hedges and soft lighting.  Sky is even a nice shade of pinks and purples. Be careful approaching the other pavilion. I was thrown out by a security orb, I was unable to get a comment from LL on this before writing the story. There are people exploring the SIM before the big event, if you get a chance see if this is the place you want to take your special someone.  The whole place looks like Valentine’s Day and knowing the Lindens, there will be all kinds of things going on when the activities begin on February 14.

Valentine Town 2019
When you land, turn around and you will find the Tunnel of Love.  I recommend Sunset or Dawn sun lighting. This SIM also allows flying so it is easy to get around.  The Tunnel of Love is a fully operational ride. Turn left and walk through the Welcome gate to visit the town.  Some of the trees have heart leaves in reds and pinks. The town itself looks like Whoville. The decorative hearts are lavish and large.  There is a large gathering area for the DJ and dancing. Off the dance floor are kiosks with flowers for sale. If you join the group, there is a free gift of a bullseye backpack.  You may choose from “Cupid”, “Single”, “Taken” or “Warning” to alert those around you. I wore the “Cupid” while I visited the SIM.

Valentine’s Day Street Fair in Mielville
Mieville’s Valentine’s Day Street Fair runs February 10-15.  There is shopping, gachas and various fun activities. They are hosting a special Valentine’s Dance on February 14th at 6 pm slt.  Love was in the air when I stopped by the SIM, moments after arriving a woman became very friendly with me when she saw the backpack [ “Cupid” ] from Valentine Town.  Of course I was a dashing male avi so who can blame her? I checked out the shops, one item I thought was particularly clever is a SPIKE kinetic sculpture. This item made by Liam Metaluna has a rotating heart that releases a flow of hearts periodically.  I was fascinated for several minutes watching it. There is no shortage of gifts with heart and love themes so you might consider stopping and picking up a gift before you pick up your date. At the end of the row of shopping is a large building with the dancing animations.  Again, I recommend sunset sun for most pleasing lighting.

London City Love-In
This stop is certainly popular, now attracting the newest members of SL.  They are having a month long celebration “of the heart”. This stop wasn’t as pink and red as the others, yet if you enjoy a London backdrop, this is the place to celebrate.  I would recommend this spot for a single person who wants to get out and have some conversations. Perhaps meet new friends and dance the night away. There a many avis on this SIM, 76 when I visited, so be prepared for lag.  Yet if you want to meet people, you need avis.
I have some personal “go to” romantic spots I will share with you.  Alone or with a friend, a date, I promise you will enjoy this stop.

Lost Gardens of Apollo
An old SIM maintained and charming, the dance floor here is always magical.  The light is perfect and there are stars twinkling around you as you dance. Explore the island, and you will find a Zeppelin tour and some areas to sit and to cuddle up to enjoy your surrounding.  There are lovely gardens, waterfalls and secluded places throughout the SIM.
Zeppelin tour:
Dancing area:

Ocho Tango & Cammino e Vivo Capovolto [builder]
This SIM is a visual feast.  The club Ocho Tango has tango and other dances available.  Usually I can find someone to dance with easily there without bringing a date.  It is a multilingual location so if you want to practice Spanish or French you might meet someone there to help you.  I have helped French residents with their English while visiting. The BIG reason to come here besides the great dancing is the 3D art build adjacent to it.  One of my favorite SL builders, Cammino e Vivo Capovolto, has maintained an installation here for at least four years. It remains beautiful and haunting, the building takiing care to set the windlight for maximum effect.  There are plcaes to sit and places to cuddle. It is a nice SIM to explore and spend time with someone special.

There are 89 SIMs listed as romantic on the SL Destination guide today.  These are my favorites to visit. We wish you and yours a wonderful Valentine's Day!

Friday, January 25, 2019

Two Clubs, All Adult, Best Looking Avis in SL - Seersha Heart

Looking for Mr./Ms. Right?  Interested in Mr./Ms. Right Now?  Want to make friends, chat, or be naughty.  Two of the most popular clubs to visit are Teqi’s Lounge and [the chamber].  Both are more than sex clubs. Each has it’s own way of facilitating an upscale experience to meet like minded individuals.  Neither club is all about sex. Whereas [the chamber] is discreet, Teqi’s Lounge makes no secret that there is plenty of naughty fun to be had within her walls.

There is no finer place that Second Life’s upscale stop, Teqi’s Lounge.  Teqi’s lounge is hands down the most beautiful adult club in SL. Romantic lighting, soft colors, nice furniture and chat areas there is nothing missing for first class comfort.  Teqi’s is a place that attracted the best looking avis with well-fitting and stylish mesh as far as the eye can see. There is a cost to join Teqi’s that is approximately $4US or 1000L.  Teqi has special days for non-members to visit and check out the club. Is it worth the Lindens? Absolutely, if you have the budget it is money well spent. The clubs that have membership fees tend to keep out the Newbies or the people who are not serious about socializing politely.  Translation: griefers stay away. This allows for the member to experience a great night of socializing while keeping the distractions some clubs face at bay. Last October, I had the opportunity to speak to Teqi about her club.

Seersha Heart: When did you open Teqi’s?  Did you have help?

Teqi: I started to build Teqis in 2008 and I continuously built it until 2012.  At that time, it looked totally different. There were funny items built into the club such as an elevator with dancing animation, funny music played, silly dances built in bar counter, peeking animation in restroom or foursome champagne dance with bubbles etc...
I didn’t look for visitors at that time, it was more just for my friends and for my fun. So usually there was just few friends with me daily.  I didn’t have clear image of what kind of style & design I wanted for the Lounge. I realized running a club is more complex I thought. SL society is a very complicated thing, more complicated than most of the people think.
I took my time to research many kinds of people’s behaviors in SL.  Such as, what things affects their behavior as well as how it effects their behavior.  And questions like what generates traffic or what kills it. Also, I had to learn English language for be able to express myself (still learning it).  I had to learn moderating too, including things like when I need to interrupt a conversation in the club, when I need to cut it, or stop it, when it’s the time to remove a person from the club, when and with what condition let them come back. What makes an avatar look too young, how to recognize the visual trick they might use for present too young age character and remove them from the club as fast as I can.

Of course, I had to learn how to deal with griefers, which is the best way to deal with them and which is making it worse. I needed a security system and had to learn what kind of security system would serve the best the Lounge needs.  Then there are all the technical issues such as how to deal with lag...Well, I spent 4 years on these things to learn and understand. Then in 2012 I was ready to rebuild/redesign the Lounge with the knowledge I learned.

I had friends who supported me by coming daily to have some fun, they always inspired me to install new things in the club, they had so much fun trying the new things I made for the lounge.  I had fun watching them use the new items I put in the lounge. Other friends supported my work financially and without these friends I couldn’t have built Teqi's. The composition of the Teqi's project was always my work only.

Seersha Heart:Are there any plans to expand Teqi’s or have additional locations?  [since it is SO popular]

Teqi: A place must be expanded if its popular?   No, I don’t think so, bumping into each other is a good start for chatting.  Should we make additional locations for a place? If somebody understands SL then would say no. Most of the people in SL alone and they are looking for company. In this case it is the place owner’s job to bring people together, not to make them be separated from each other at different locations.

Seersha Heart: Do you work with others on any possible changes/revisions to the club or is it all you?

Teqi: I’m quite alone with this project, I haven’t found anyone who could see SL and it’s potential through my eyes as I see it. I mean I never met anyone who could use the technical possibilities or interior design or / and interior composition for stimulate or influence or drive visitor’s behavior on the wished way.  Changes and revisions based on my decisions.

Seersha Heart: Do you know of any couples who met at Teqi and then partnered?

Teqi: Yes I know many, for example Rawage creator, but me too.  I found my partner at Teqis. I built Teqis for people be able to find partner easier by using special techniques that affects people behavior and helps expressing sensuality and helps dating, generates romantic moments that people never forget and beside boosts the future traffic strongly.

Seersha Heart: Thank you for the information Teqi.  You have a fantastic club.

Part of SL for many years, [the chamber] is a sex club that keeps secrets.  [the chamber] is located on a picturesque SIM owned by the elusive Max Butoh.  This SIM also contains a lovely formal club and an art gallery. The | dathúil | gallery of art features artists monthly.  The gallery itself is an eccectic warehouse design. It seems that each item on this SIM is carefully detailed for maximum visual pleasure.  The dance club is named ~ The Sable Club ~ and features a 1920s theme.

Elegant and subtle, you can expect to find a wide range of people at [the chamber] on any given day.  The members have one thing in common, impeccable attire and a sense of style. The group description is “A secret sex society themed-hangout in a vintage hotel room. Meet like-minded individuals for erotic chat, sexual encounters, roleplay or to just hang out.”  I learned of the club myself years ago when interviewing a featured artist at the | dathúil | gallery.  She insisted I would enjoy the club and she was correct.  [the chamber] is and remains a fantastic place to just hang out and on occasion have an erotic chat.  
I have seen [the chamber] evolve through the years keeping faithfully to the vintage hotel theme while adding items that enhance the experience.  When I first joined [the chamber] most socializing was done inside in the lounge. Now the favorite spot is the deck in the rear of the building. There are private suites you may access from the main building for those times you want to spend some one on one [or perhaps more] private time.  There is an incredible spa on the top floor with a large beautiful pool and massage tables. There are other areas I will not mention here as I feel they are even more private for the members. My personal favor is directly off the deck. It is a vintage barber shop complete with some very interesting animations in the barber’s chair.

These clubs remain at the top of the popular higher end adult venues.  Many people, such as myself, are members of both clubs as they are different.  Each provides a quality adult experience with it’s own “flavor”. Teqi’s is closely managed, overtly sexual, with every toy imaginable right there for anyone to try and to see.  The décor and colors at Teqi’s are both soft and sexy. There is no doubt that those hanging out at Teqi’s are interested in the adult fun, voyeurism and hanging out. Periodically, Teqi’s has an open day where non-members may visit to check out the club.  [the chamber], however, is discreet in the adult fun. Where Teqi’s is a large open club with nooks, [the chamber] is vintage hotel with rooms and floors. The colors at [the chamber] are muted yet lush. The private areas of [the chamber] are varied in location and theme.  There are many things you will discover at [the chamber] if you look around at the club. The SIM is also a delightful experience to roam around. I recommend both clubs to those interested in the high end adult clubs.

Tuesday, October 30, 2018

Cheater's High - Relationship Challenge- Seersha Heart Reporting…

            Many of us are in or have been in a monogamous relationship at one time or another in SL.  Relationships are perhaps one of the most difficult aspects of living in SL.  In a virtual relationship we can only rely on IMs, text messages in world, to gage who a person is in SL.  With the amount of people who live in SL, it would seem counter intuitive that most people are honest.  Why not be honest in our virtual world?  You can be anyone or anything, right?  Unfortunately for those seeking honest friendships and relationships there are SL residents who are dishonest about their relationships and their fidelity.  There are many respected studies of the “Cheater’s High”.  This cheater’s high is the emotional boost someone receives when they successfully deceive another person.  And yes, this is a “thing”, the cheater’s high is real.  Those I spoke to experience the cheater’s high by telling me their stories.  All names and identifying information has been changed to protect the contributor.

            Andyy Oh has his SL time all figured out.  He told me he has the best of both worlds.  Partnered to a woman since 2012 he considers that his main relationship.  By most metrics it is a perfect relationship.  He lives in England, she lives in Ohio.  When she finishes her work day in RL she goes home to log into SL.  This is late afternoon early evening for her, for him it is late evening.  They see each other almost every day at their SL home.  However, what she doesn’t know is that Andyy has a second life IN second life.  When he went mesh in 2015 he made a new avi under a new account.  Initially he planned to experiment with that avi and that account but remain on most days Andyy.  For a few weeks this worked as he experimented with the design of the avi.  He also found that building as this new avi gave him quiet and time to concentrate.  He told me he told his partner about this avi, but they never discussed it further. 

            This “quiet” that Andyy experienced while in his ALT account as Hectortst came from the fact he didn’t have any friends with the ALT account.  One day while building in a sandbox a woman approached him and asked him a few questions about his project.  He said it was very exciting to be someone no one knew.  He had a couple hours every day before his partner logged into SL.  He had been using the time to build and to explore a bit.  When this woman chatted him, he saw no harm in joining her a club he had never heard of before.  His new life, his alter ALT had a life blossom easily for Andyy.  His days evolved into a couple hours as Hectortst then the evening as Andyy with his partner.  Hectortst is a different version of Andyy.  Hectortst is “single for life” and a playboy.  I asked Andyy if he was worried about getting caught.  He told me it would never happen.  He insists he is a caring and loving partner and that this isn’t really cheating.  He told me it “doesn’t really count” as he doesn’t have any steady relationships with women as Hectortst.

            It is safe to say that Andyy has not yet read Huckleberry Hax’s series AFK.  If he had, he would learn that Huck seems to know quite a few ways a person may get caught even as an ALT.  You can change the avi and the account, but the RL person behind both remains the same.  People repeat patterns, go places, say things that are similar regardless of account.  Thinking of this I asked Andyy one more question, “has your partner ever met Hectortst?”.  My IM went silent with this question.  After about fifteen minutes he IMed me back and said “yes”.  Maybe he felt guilty for this digression.  I only asked questions and listened.  Leaving the IM silent worked for me.  Andyy told me a short story of how his partner met Hectortst.  He said he purposely went to a club that Andyy and his partner frequented.  The prior night Andyy had told his partner that he would not be online the next day planning out his meeting with her.  Before he walked into “their” club Andyy realized his Hectortst was a very attractive avi perhaps more than Andyy himself.  He went into the club [as Hectortst] and sat at the bar while the DJ played.  She wasn’t there at the bar as he had hoped so he waited.  It took three separate times before Hectortst was there at the same time as Andyy’s partner.  Andyy told me his anxiety grew with each try.  He wondered if his partner was with someone else while he was Hectortst.  He wondered if his partner would flirt with Hectortst.

            By the time Hectortst met his partner Andyy was a basket case of worry.  He regained his confidence when she walked into the club one night.  Finally, his big moment came when he IMed her.  Would she flirt back or ignore him or what???  Andyy confessed that he had thought about having an affair with his own partner as Hectortst if she was interested.  Andyy had moved from a few dalliances to full on manipulation mode.  What happened wasn’t any scenario he predicted.  His RL began more demanding so he only had time for Andyy not Hectortst.  He stopped talking to me after his huge manipulation confession, so I don’t know what happened.  Honestly at this point I would rather not know.
            Women are dishonest in SL relationships too.  Chrissy Aeon has a different system that Andyy’s but seems to successfully have a couple lives in SL.  Currently without a partner, Chrissy says she has partnered before and plans to partner again someday soon.  She wants a partner who has limited SL time, such as only weekend, certain nights, basically a predictable schedule.  She loves having a partner, that someone special, to spend time with in SL.  What she also does is provide and escort service as well as serve as a “slave” to a Gorean man.  There is the “hi I’m Chrissy” woman, the “hi check my picks for gifts” woman and the first girl of Gorean land owner.  I could not keep track of our conversation in a way that I can convey how she does this in SL.  She is sweet, funny and seems to have it all figured out.  She sees no problem with all these lives existing with one avi.  I would agree that there isn’t a problem either, SL is what you make of it.  However, I asked her if she tells her boyfriends about the escorting and the Gorean RP.  To this she said, “no WAY”.  Now that, for many, is a problem.

            I spoke to seven SL residents who in some way are deceiving their partner or love interest.  What I didn’t hear from any of the people I spoke to was guilt.  None of them seemed to feel badly for being deceptive.  Perhaps given I posted my inquiry on Facebook, perhaps only those who felt no guilt would seek me out.  I found myself feeling worse each time I spoke to someone.  It was as if reliving the deception was a thrill.  I asked each one a couple of questions.  These are the questions and the results from my small group;

      What is a ‘partner’ in SL?  [most frequent answer was a partner is your spouse or number 1 person]
      What would you do if you learned your partner was deceiving you?  [surprisingly 5 of the 7 said that their partner would never deceive them]
      Does telling your story make you feel better, worse or the same for deceiving your partner?  [ 3 argued that they weren’t really deceiving their partner/bf/gf, 2 the same, 2 enjoyed talking about it]

Each person was promised anonymity.  I also told each person I would write the story my way using the information they provided.  Only one person asked if they could read an advance copy of this article.  I said no.  What I learned to put this together was deception takes a lot of time and a lot of energy.  There are no specific clues that seem to make one person more likely than another to be deceptive in SL.  I am confident that the deceptive people are the minority here, or rather the long term deceptive practices are few.  Most people are upfront about what they hope for in their lives here.  And in the end, you do your best to get to know someone then…. make a leap of faith.