“Virtual relationships” is the subject of
interest for many people. I believe that nobody enters this virtual environment
just to be alone. In a certain way, everybody wants to meet other people and
establish some kind of relationship, even if it’s a temporary one.
Talking to some friends I realized
that most of them keep some kind of relationship in their Second Life. Some of
those are really happy, healthy and permanent.
The Second life is an environment
where we can keep in touch with people from different cultures all over the
world. Virtual relationships just happen, one way or another, as soon as we meet
different people. Some people get emotionally involved. It just naturally
happens, even if we don’t want to. Many of us get so involved in those
relationships that it starts affecting our real life. I know some couples, who
with some time together, passed through the Second Life barriers and had some
contact in real life.
In another conversation with my
friends, they told me that the things they most like to do when they’re online
are: meeting new people (especially of the opposite sex), talking, exploring,
dating and even virtual sex. For the majority of men and women the pleasure and
seduction are the best things in SL. Many
consider SL a great place to learn about human interactions and experimenting
with fantasies they may not feel confident or able to try in the real world. I
find this concept very interesting. When
I was exploring the grid, I saw some unusual events, which we may never see in
real life.
For example, I saw a man and a little
cat girl purring and flirting in the open chat. I also saw a beautiful lonely
elf girl, waiting for someone to interact with.
I am also curious to observe people
being able to fulfill their fantasies and fetishes in a variety of ways.
The question is in all these
scenarios is, what actually works in a virtual relationship?
After some long talks with my friends
I realized that relationships, the successful ones, are the ones that are based
on understanding each other’s differences and the limitations in having a
virtual relationship.
The most important thing is that our
real life experience on this subject can’t be applied in virtual relationships.
We can even see some people making the same real life mistakes in second life.
It’s like the famous quote: “Wherever you go, there you are”.
Mutual respect, caring, complicity
and most important the positive vibes, the willingness to be together, that’s
what keeps the relationships happy.
Above all things, if you want a relationship
to be permanent, just put the jealousy aside. After all, everyone wants to have
fun, that’s what SL is about, with no real life dramas added to the mix.
Here are 10 Commandments for Virtual
Relationships.
- § Don’t be jealous
- § Leave the dramas at the door
- § Have interests in common;
- § Respect each other’s boundaries
- § Be creative and spontaneous
- § Don’t let the routine depress the relationship
- § Don’t isolate. Keep other Second Life friendships, not only with your partner.
- § Have the same expectations of your partner about bringing the SL relationship to real life.
- § Respect each other’s feelings
- Share the same fantasies.
Special thanks to: Max and Matt, who
posed with me, for the photos; Joymell, the beautiful lonely elf girl; the unknown
couple, the man and the cat girl; Pryamel and Majamela; a romantic couple and Dino,
for helping me with my English.
Note: This article was translated
from Portuguese to English
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